Wednesday, November 29, 2006

Cut and Run or Crash and Burn?

I went out on a date with my 23 year old suitor and unfortunately, I had a good time. I say unfortunately because having a good time just makes me like him more and more!

I have one friend in the "You Crazy!" camp who predicts that 23 is going to do or say something that makes me realize how young he really is and then I won't find him so attractive anymore. I'm not going to discount that, because I could see that happening. In fact, he said something last night that made me think, "Yeah, this most likely is going to be temporary."

Which brings me to the question: Is it better to cut and run or crash and burn?

I've been thinking that doing the ol' cut and run might be the smart money in this situation. The problem is that I don't really want to! I'm pretty sure I'll end up getting hurt in this situation, even if I'm the one doing the breaking up.

I was talking with Roger yesterday about the fear of the crash and burn and he asked me if I would have married Jason if someone had told me it was going to end up the way it did. Without hesitation, I said, "Yes. I would've still married him." Even though we ended up divorced 10 years later. He has clearly been an extremely important person in my life and even though a life together did not ultimately work out, I know I'm light years ahead of where I would've been without him. The experience with him was worth the heartbreak at the end.

I talked to Roger this morning about my date last night and he thinks I should totally go for it. He said that the look on my face is totally different with this one than with any other guy I've gone out with so far. I know that's true because I can feel it's true.

All I know is that I'm doomed. But it still might not be too late to cut and run.


sedjtroll said...

Is it not possible to sort of date this guy with the knowledge that it's temporary, until something better comes along? Perhaps that' rude, but if you tell him that, maybe it's better than breaking up woth him? I don't know, I'm not good at this stuff.

Stephanie said...

I guess that is a possibility and maybe that will be what I'll need to do. Or maybe I will just cut and run. Maybe he'll decide that 31 is too old and I won't have to even worry about it! :-)

Aaron said...

Does he not know that part yet? Like, he might flee when he finds out? I recently met smeone who was 23 (that's a TEN year gap for me), and, once you get over that "What the hell are we going to talk about?" hurdle, it's no big deal unless you want to make it one. Anyway, the important thing is "does it make you happy?". I'd base the decision on that.

Stephanie said...

He knows how old I am and says he doesn't care. I think the age gap has been bothering me less and less everyday, so that's good.

It has been making me happy. I look forward to seeing him and I enjoy the time I spend with him. So, we'll see how it goes...