ISTJ (the aforementioned boyfriend) and I have been having lots of talks about our future over the last six months. One of the recurring themes has been whether we will stay in Los Angeles or move elsewhere. The top choices seem to be:
Nashville - His parents will be returning to Nashville in 2014, after completing their 14 year (by that point) mission trip to Venezuela. They'll be moving into their home that they've rented out all these years after a bit of renovation/updating. This, of course, makes Nashville a natural choice.
We'd have grandparents living locally, so that would be a great help and make it a lot easier for the grandparents to see the grandkid(s). Additionally, the cost of living is much more affordable, so it would put less stress on us financially to live a modest lifestyle allowing me to stay home to care for the babes. We'd definitely get more bang for our buck, real-estately speaking... >We would be within driving distance to many of the game conventions I love in the Southeast, which would make attending more affordable, if we could talk the grandparents into babysitting for a weekend every now and then!
The potential downsides: heat, humidity, making new friends (although I do know a handful of people there, but not that well), not being near an ocean, having a small-ish airport, not having 24 hour everything at my beck and call. Although, truth be told, it's fairly rare I need a grocery store at 2 AM, but when I have, I really have.
San Francisco - His job is in tech, so a natural choice. It's beautiful, cosmopolitan, the weather is aaaaawwwesome! How can you not love San Francisco filled with all its water and love? I love this town.
The potential downsides: It's really expensive to live here, which would make the whole staying-at-home-thing a lot tougher. Also, no family and only a few friends, so probably no support if we needed it for kid stuffs.
In a distant third...
Atlanta - My mom lives here, so we'd have family support. He doesn't love the city, but I know TONS of people, so friends would be the easy part. It's less expensive than LA, but more spread out so more danger of getting pigeon-holed in a weird little suburb somewhere and end up not close to anybody.
The potential downsides: heat, humidity, traffic, expensive real estate depending on the area we'd want to live in...
And of course, the
Staying in LA option - The weather is pretty awesome, we already have friends (although, they're not too kid-friendly for the most part), we know what we're in for, my rent is crazy reasonable because I'm the on-site manager. It's only $950/month for a good sized one bedroom in a decent and convenient part of town. We both have jobs, the beach is nearby, we have the world at the tips of our SPG Amex at LAX.
No decisions have been made, or probably WILL be made for at least a year or two, but just putting all this down as a kind of note to myself.
After having spent the last few days in Dunwoody (suburb of Atlanta) with my mom, it's been so nice to go to Costco and not wait in a HUGE line or sit in traffic while just trying to get in a parking lot. The less dense population is kind of nice. I feel like I have room to breathe!
I'll have to update this as more options/thoughts come up as to if or where we'd move, but these are the main options at the moment.