tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16881255.comments2024-02-27T16:45:14.911-08:00Life is for Living, right?Stephaniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09182054237708585905noreply@blogger.comBlogger729125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16881255.post-20010673716647045032024-02-27T08:23:11.617-08:002024-02-27T08:23:11.617-08:00It's maybe a little strange that I found my wa...It's maybe a little strange that I found my way here...you are in my contacts. I think it's because either you were on Jeopardy when I was and we met in the green room, or maybe I met someone there who gave me your contact info. It's been almost 12 years since Jeopardy, so my memory of it may be a little fuzzy. <br /><br />Anyway, I'm glad to see that you and Jason are thriving. I love when people succeed, because the more individuals win, the more society wins, and we all do better. <br /><br />Peace.sgbtexhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09712961036973872818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16881255.post-39413479799711141822021-11-21T12:47:11.709-08:002021-11-21T12:47:11.709-08:00I saw a blog from 2006 about measuring cups! I lo...I saw a blog from 2006 about measuring cups! I love measuring cups, too... but I am desperately searching for 1 1/2 cup a 3/4 cup and a2/3 cup in the vintage William Sonoma pattern like the ones you pictured. I have 5 children and have been collecting a complete set for each one of them for many years. I would be willing to either pay you very well for those cups or give you a brand new complete set in the box William Sonoma Ultimate Stainlesss-steel measuring cup and spoon set a set of 14. this would be the standard spoons and cups and the odd size spoons and cups Please let me know what you think!<br />Margaret Lindborghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07875246629669898025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16881255.post-41827037823183861112020-12-01T17:31:10.014-08:002020-12-01T17:31:10.014-08:00Okay soooo, I am only newly dating a guy with 2 ch...Okay soooo, I am only newly dating a guy with 2 children by 2 different ex-wives. I want to end things but I don't have the words! We've been dating for a few months and twice, had to postpone dates because of his children randomly deciding to want to spend time with him. IDK how to tell him that that's a turn-off/ deal-breaker. I've dated 2 other men with children and I didn't like being put off because of the children :(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16881255.post-5226430289497561062020-10-31T21:11:30.648-07:002020-10-31T21:11:30.648-07:00I know I am reply to this from years ago but I bar...I know I am reply to this from years ago but I barely came across this post and your reply. I have the same issue you are having. My boyfriend only has 1 child though and I get along with him great but again I just feel out of place all the time. I care for my boyfriend a lot but he just doesn't understand and all he says is "I don't look at things how you look at them, you look at things in a bad way" and it irritates me so much. And I also have a nephew and I would not spend all my free time with him either. Lol And its more to this but as I am getting older (i am 27 yrs old) the more I just want my own everything. I will never come first nor will I get to experience his firsts with him because hes already had it. You don't know menoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16881255.post-10521790165791152142018-03-06T08:35:25.808-08:002018-03-06T08:35:25.808-08:00I dated a man who was not over his ex-wife and the...I dated a man who was not over his ex-wife and the last straw was when he took her to a set of parties with his friends. He was all over her and happy to be with her. I have been through this before with a boyfriend I lived with for almost four years and dated for seven. Everytime his ex-wife needed something, he rushed over and helped with a broken vacuum cleaner, flooded toilet, wine stains on the carpet, grocery shopping, and other stupid things. He started meeting her at his offices and private music studio alone when I was out or working, and taking her to lunch. Do not put up with this behavior. These men do not want to be divorced. They are divorced against their will.<br /><br />I won't say don't date divorced men or men with kids but I passed on a guy with a three-year-old and six-month-old recently. I don't care what he thinks. Nobody has the right to be verbally abusive or offended by another's preferences. There are plenty of men who won't date women who are short, older, overweight, divorced, single parents, etc. Do what makes you happy. You don't need an explanation. No means no. Nobody has the right to question, criticize, or verbally abuse a person for this decision. That is harassment and verbal abuse.<br /><br />It is too bad about the difficult situations with people dating single parents, but I would like to think most people are not that way. I would avoid a man who sees his ex beyond a couple of holidays or lunches each year. He does have to talk to her if there are kids but that is about it. It doesn't matter if she is friends with a few of his friends or sees her ex in-laws from time to time or attends two or three family events or holidays a year. There is no need to be friends with your ex, pay them money beyond child support, or bail them out. I do not hang with, speak to, send gifts to, or rescue my ex-husband. I think it is mean and selfish to put a current boyfriend or new husband through that, along with making them responsible for any kids (I don't have any), debts, chores, or anything else. I might take care of someone's kid once a week and take the kid out once every two weeks, but beyond that they are not my kids and I am not a parent. If you had them, they are your responsibility.<br /><br />It is a matter of respect. I do not allow my parents to chew out boyfriends or husbands. I do not make them responsible for myself financially, get mad if they have bills to pay, and require them to spend lots of money on me. I do not make the accountable for my debts. I do not require them to do all sorts of cooking and cleaning for me, drive me around, bring me dinner, or run errands. They are not my servants. <br /><br />I do not expect them to rescue me from stupid decisions or irresponsibility or put up with bad behavior. I do not subject them to exes, cheat, or put them in the middle of family/relationship conflict included exes who step over the line. I do not hang with exes. If you really care, you will be thinking of a holiday for them or a birthday present, what you can do for them, not what they can do for you. <br /><br />These single/divorced people you write about are emotionally retarded and exploitative narcissists. That is really the problem. But don't date divorced men/men with kids if you don't want to. It is perfectly understandable and not selfish. Demanding that someone take care of your kids full-time when they are not the parents is incredibly selfish. Nadinenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16881255.post-5356048268492442382018-01-15T19:34:29.157-08:002018-01-15T19:34:29.157-08:00Last night I ended it with my boyfriend because I ...Last night I ended it with my boyfriend because I couldn't get over the fact he had a kid. His kid is one of the cutest, sweetest kids out there. However I started to get resentful that every Sunday at 5pm he would have to leave to pick up his kid. Or I could only see him after 5pm on Sundays when he dropped off his kid. Or he was tired after work and taking care of his kid. Always hearing how amazing his kid is (and I agree but its different when its not your kid!) He also told me if his Ex ever met me she would be a B**** to me which got in my head. He would tell me the drama of her making his life difficult and in my head would think do I need this in my life? He was such a good dad though always putting the kid first. But I felt that I had to give up too much and it would only get harder as time goes on. I also felt he didn't understand any of my concerns or think of them as valid. I felt a lot of guilt and sadness with we broke up because he had many admirable qualities and I loved him. He told me I made a big mistake which hurt a lot. I have been crying all day but this post helped confirm the feelings I had for some while. I hope this temporary pain will save me a life full of it. I hope the right man for me is out there and I genuinely hope he finds a girl who accepts him and his son as is as he deserves lots of love.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16881255.post-35115660919672559662017-11-06T17:49:37.968-08:002017-11-06T17:49:37.968-08:00Wow! You posted this 10 years ago and still get s...Wow! You posted this 10 years ago and still get so many responses!! That says something <br /><br />I found your blog because I am trying to deal with the recent break up with my fiancé. A divorced father of 2 girls. I think my first red flag was that I didn’t agree with his parenting style- even though I don’t have kids of my own, I have two older sisters who are amazing Moms so I have an idea of how it should be done. Over the last few months I’ve felt more used and disrespected. I finally ended it after I heard him yelling at me and it sounded just like the fights he described with his ex. Crazy ex, btw. And his Mom was a total drama queen that he catered to as well <br />I feel a sense of relief but more pain and guilt. Had I known what I was getting myself into...well, lesson learned. I won’t make this mistake again 😞Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14272829736903234056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16881255.post-67849690529525450502017-09-28T14:28:41.108-07:002017-09-28T14:28:41.108-07:00I am tired of dating a man with kids. Im in the si...I am tired of dating a man with kids. Im in the situation now with a young man who has 4 children. One from his ex and 3 from another. I fell for him because we have a lot in common but then there is alot of stuff we dont have in common. He tries his best to do for his kids. But the situation is dragging me down and i dont think its going to work for me. It was always a deal breaker when i was in my 20s for a man to have kids. I tried to be less judgemental as i approached my 30s to make the deal breaker be a man with multiple baby mothers. The drama is real but its also annoying. The kids like me. But im not happy Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16881255.post-5188551134851439572017-01-22T22:47:18.325-08:002017-01-22T22:47:18.325-08:00I'm 39 (never married, no kids) and currently ...I'm 39 (never married, no kids) and currently dating a divorced father of one eight-year-old boy. Prior to this relationship I REFUSED to even consider dating a man with children, but this guy and I have known each other since childhood and the timing was just never quite right for us in our 20s, so I made an exception. I always avoided dating men with kids because I'm not cut out to be number 2, don't want the complications and don't want my life dictated by choices made in prior relationships. I can now confirm that I was pretty much right about all of it. And one more aspect: I have never in the past thought about how much money a guy makes. If he has children, he needs to have much better than a decent job... He needs to make a lot of money if you want to have any kind of a life together. I haven't even met the child yet and the ex-wife is a quality person with a good career. Even so, it is something I will never do again. <br /><br />There seems to be this sense that at a certain point in your 30s you should just settle for whatever is there. When I think of the experience he had with his ex when they first started dating... All of the fun, with great dinners and bars. We do almost none of that and we live in a major city with great restaurants and bars all around. He also mentioned that he spent way too much on his ex's ring and would never do that again. I told him if that's how he feels he should only date divorced women who have already done the engagement and marriage thing. Bottomline: he will either figure out a way to make me feel like a top priority or it won't work. No intimate relationship will work long-term if you can't put your partner at the top. If you ask most of these divorced men with kids what happened in their failed marriages, they will tell you that someone stopped making the marriage a priority once the kids came along. Think about that: two people who share these children can't make a relationship work when they don't make each other a priority. So how can they expect these relationships to work if the partners are taking a backseat to children who are NOT theirs.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16881255.post-60682714389350025412016-07-31T19:20:54.275-07:002016-07-31T19:20:54.275-07:00Hi steph
I'm 30 years old woman with no kid. A...Hi steph<br />I'm 30 years old woman with no kid. And this is my very first time I have relationship with a guy 39yo with 4 KIDS!! he is a great father that means good so I know he'll be good if I have kids with him. But it's always been my dream I want 5 kids in my life and I have to give up on my dream as he already have 4. I like children but everytime we have the kids (Friday night to Sunday evening every fortnight) I feel like I hangout my with nephew and my nieces, doesn't matter how much I love them I don't want always having them. I have to help to cook and clean when they around, I feel a bit jealous when partner hugs and kisses them (I wish they all 4 are mine). I always wanted to have 5 kids Coz I know I can be a good mother for them, but still thinking should I give up my dream for him. he could only effort for another 2 kids with me. and I'm sure that would be really hard to support 6 kids!! I gonna feel really bad. he only gave $2,700 for all kids support. I mean that money would be nice just for us and my future children if he don't have any. and I talk to his mother that if I decide to have kids with him that means his life gonna turn financially bad and gonna need me to work (I don't mind to work but his ex just gonna sitting on the couch like she always do on their marriage and never work) I wouldn't mind to support my own kids Coz he already need support his own children. But that wouldn't be fair for me. Anyway so far his ex don't really bother me but I'm scared that she will turn different to me in the future (but everyone included his mother and him afraid if they fight back every time she being bitchy Coz they don't want to lose the chance to see the kids and make another problem so they kinda accept for her evil behavior) every time I look at her messages I hate her so much, she being bitchy. I don't know what gonna happen in the future when I'm with him with in the long term Coz I only came her for 3 months and next month I have to come back to my country and apply visa after for longer stay (like spouse visa) <br />I talk to him about mostly everything but seems like I can't be number one for everything. <br />Plus every time he mention or me or his mother about his ex wife for what happened was horrible, he work his ass off to pay everything and did everything like cook and cleaning also paid for her medication (3 of his children are used IBF) and she treated him like shit makes me sick everything time I remembered her and I have to meet her if i want to drop the kids with their dad which is I don't want it. Don't know when. I felt like I'm too good for him <br />PLEASE HELP ME!!! I NEED ADVICES. <br />Thank you Everyone. <br />Sorry for my bad English. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04904054094405752657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16881255.post-22241780417164603482016-07-21T11:43:56.507-07:002016-07-21T11:43:56.507-07:00I'm sorry you had to go through all this and n...I'm sorry you had to go through all this and no its not about you being a bad person. Men with kids tend to use new women without kids as their bed mattress and treat them like dirt compared to their kids. A man has to know that he can't have his cake and eat it and that you deserve respect too and just because he has kids that doesn't mean he can take you for granted. If he chooses his kids then drop him but try not to fall for such men as you deserve to be number one not have left overs due to his poor choices in women and baggage from past relationships. You will have saved yourself lots of heartache and opened the door for a more committed and less complicated relationship in future.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16881255.post-55169397823955320062015-10-24T08:58:01.879-07:002015-10-24T08:58:01.879-07:00The author has the right idea. I met my husband wh...The author has the right idea. I met my husband when I was 19 years old and I thought he having a three-year-old daughter was going to be fun. I was sooooo wrong. The experience has been so frustrating and basically his daughter is the main reason we have had issues throughout our relationship. We are still together simply because his ex and daughter have been living 500 miles away for most of our relationship, but the issues remain. The daughter has always been an insecure, competitive, manipulative nightmare. Now at 16 she's still the same but with more hypocrisy toward me. Subtract the awful child's attitude and you still have the ex communicating, the child support, the divided time, the endless summers when she's visiting, and me as the stepmonster no matter what I do or how nice I am who feels like an outsider when they are together. My husband and I have been together over a decade and he is wonderful although he feels guilty about the lack of time he spends with his daughter. However, if the kid would have lived nearby and would have over every weekend I would have either been single or with a man without kids. I suffered just enough and refuse to suffer any more. Luckily now the kid lives in another state, but a man with kids is always going to have to deal with them and you as his partner are along for a very unpleasant ride most of the time. Mostly because even when the kid turns 18 he or she will drain dad monetarily for college or rent so on and so forth. Ladies...don't settle. He may be gold but his kids and his prior life and the hassle on you is not worth it. A good man can't help being involved with his child and you will resent the whole situation. You must come first!!! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16881255.post-71987768180803801722015-07-10T16:26:46.993-07:002015-07-10T16:26:46.993-07:00Me, a divorced man: 37
Been on both sides. Married...Me, a divorced man: 37<br />Been on both sides. Married a woman with 2 kids. Regret it. Ruined plans, dreams, and personal growth.<br />Post divorce, have 2 kids full and full, mom has no visits and hasn't seen them for 3 years.No drama.<br />Been dating a wonderful woman,(divorced) no kids for 2 1/2 years. I know what she gives up. I did it. I don't let her work for me. I support her nights out (doing what I want to be doing). I make time for our dates and my kids have firm boundaries. My kids emulate the caring and respect I show her. <br />She gets bored. She goes out with other men and brushes the boundaries of inappropriate. She gets tired of waiting for her turn with me. She wants her chance at having a baby. We may get there.<br />I will start over child rearing with her because of the ultra high value of a woman that will step into my life. She will give up the "first" experience because of the ultra high value of a man with a proven track record of good parenting. I am more rare than 1 in a million, and so is she.<br />That said, I wouldn't pass the tiniest negative judgment if she walks away today.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16881255.post-1614187415688029502015-02-02T05:20:14.609-08:002015-02-02T05:20:14.609-08:00I was dating a guy who had a child but didn't ...I was dating a guy who had a child but didn't tell me until months into dating. As soon as the date ended, I was polite and explained why I dont date guys with children over text. He had a really hard time accepting it. Oh well, thats not my problem. I choose to stay childfree and I can only be with a good guy who feels the exact same. I cant settle and I'm at the point where I rather be alone enjoying my own company for the rest of my life than to deal with all that BULLSHIT. I'm sorry, I'm just not that desperate.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16881255.post-40695557240390326412014-09-11T23:49:56.234-07:002014-09-11T23:49:56.234-07:00Yay for an update! I can't wait to see pics!Yay for an update! I can't wait to see pics!Tonyanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16881255.post-57706454160152742792014-06-27T19:46:47.537-07:002014-06-27T19:46:47.537-07:00I dated a man for a total of 6 years. He has 2 boy...I dated a man for a total of 6 years. He has 2 boys by his ex-wife and let me tell you...dating him was the worst decision I had ever made. The kids were down right disrespectful, the ex-wife constantly wanted more money for everything the boys wanted(not needed). He has been paying child support(as he should) every month and she still wants more. He has to pick them up from her house an hour away every Friday and return them on Sunday. She will not help him with the travel. <br />She found out that he was dating me and tried to have a court order state that he could not date someone unless she knew who it was because she didn't want strangers around her kids. This woman is married with 2 other children by her husband. <br />The guy that I am dating has never once taken me to pick up his kids and he only talks on the phone with her when I am not around. His kids which are now 12 and 16 curse, are lazy, and want everything just because they can have it. <br />He is always feeling guilty if he doesn't get them what they want. It is so pathetic. His oldest son is an absolute terror. He already put his fist up to fight his father and curses him out every chance he gets. The mother put the oldest son out so now he lives with his father. I am so thankful that I didn't fall for the "nice guy" that the father truly is and marry him. I would have been miserable. I would never choose to leave my peace of mind over a man an his lack of control as a man. <br />I would never recommend dating a man with kids unless you are willing to accept being in 2nd or even 3rd place. <br />There are some good men out there...just take your time and observe the situation before putting your heart out there. Once your heart is in it the situation becomes a bit more complicated. It is not worth the stress of an already made family just to be in last place. <br />And this is coming from a 38 year woman!<br />Good Luck!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16881255.post-75561327515425096942014-06-25T12:48:33.799-07:002014-06-25T12:48:33.799-07:00The only reason I am commenting is because of the ...The only reason I am commenting is because of the comment before mine. Why is this guy hateful that there are some women who do not want to date men with children? It's not his problem because clearly the ladies commenting here don't want to date him. Not to mention, they must be too 'low class' and stupid for him anyway. Whatever, dude. Don't stereo-type a group just because their opinions differ from yours. <br /><br /> I am an educated and intelligent young professional with relatively high SES, dating a man with kids. Yet, I am stuck trying to decide if/how/when to end it. I really don't have much drama with the children's mom. I am not a jealous person by nature and respect the kids' time with their dad and the fact that the ex and dad will need to communicate. Heck, the kids even really like me. The problem is, I'm withering. It is exhausting being there for everyone all of the time on top of my own needs. No one stops to regard my feelings. Sure, my boyfriend will throw out a thank you here and there, and I know he is generally appreciative of what I do. However, the occasional acknowledgement doesn't help me get the cooking and cleaning done for his family any sooner, nor does it make me feel any less like an interloper. <br /><br />When I started dating this man, I was in my mid/early 20's and did not foresee children in my future. However, I have come to realize that I like children and really want my own. I don't think it would be appropriate to force my boyfriend's children to see any less of their dad or feel like they are being replaced. I also don't want to take care of more children (two are plenty!). So, do I forego my own needs and just sit their quietly on the sidelines for *my* entire life? Or, more reasonably, should I live my own life and achieve everything I need so I can reflect on an accomplished life when I'm old and gray? Yeah, exactly.<br /><br />Now, here is the trouble. I have to break a man's heart and possibly hurt his beautiful children by leaving him/them in order to live my own life and no longer feel like an outsider to his lovely family. Wow. This is hard. <br /><br />Getting involved with a man with children is an incredibly tangled web that will prove to be difficult to extricate yourself from. My advice is to not date a man with children unless you are really, really, really, really sure you know what it will entail.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16881255.post-41495435957164936152014-03-08T18:03:52.952-08:002014-03-08T18:03:52.952-08:00This article and collection of comments is utterly...This article and collection of comments is utterly disgusting. I'm a 28 year old professional male with a young daughter. She was born into a loving and hopeful home. Her mother and I split up for the same reasons every one splits up - We fell out of love. Forgive us for losing our crystal ball ya freakin' idealist nut bags.<br /><br />A few seconds of scrubbing over the personal accounts posted here over the past five years is like experiencing a written version of Jerry Springer. Straight outa Compton, ya hurr? These guys have eight kids? The exes did what to you? Why are there so many misspellings in your posts?<br /><br />Ladies - You're lives don't suck because of the men in your life, whether they have kids or not. They suck because you're from an impoverished socio-economic class and you have low IQ's. Jesus....Get a better job and go to school.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16881255.post-82220159192441140082014-02-26T22:04:48.544-08:002014-02-26T22:04:48.544-08:00We looked for a year and a half. Finally, on one ...We looked for a year and a half. Finally, on one of our last weekends looking (it was coming up on the due date), we found the perfect place, overbid, removed the inspection contingency, removed the appraisal contingency (with a similar stipulation), matched the counter, offered five weeks free rent-back, and got it. And still, I think we only got it because we knew the seller's Realtor (and he really liked us). <br /><br />We moved in a week and a half before the girls arrived. :)<br /><br />The moral is... Just keep trying. It'll suck in the interim, but eventually everything will just come together and boom. :)Pappyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08858825402910666388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16881255.post-24560165009188087482014-01-26T19:54:28.637-08:002014-01-26T19:54:28.637-08:00Oh my goodness! I have known I am not alone but s...Oh my goodness! I have known I am not alone but sometimes really beat myself up because I struggle so much. I have been in a relationship with a man with 2 children from a previous marriage. I am 37 and I was always open to who may be the right man. In the beginning of course I thought I would really be ok and honestly the kids have been so accepting of me. He has them over 50 percent of the time so is a very involved and good father. I feel guilty for my struggle but It is so much harder than I ever imagined it would be emotionally in a relationship with a man and his children who established a family before I came along. I don't like being the woman who came along next. My boyfriend has really tried but I have developed more and more resentment and struggles. Say a prayer and put me I'm your thoughts as Him and I make a decision. I think I know this relationship is not going to work for me its just so hard to ultimately accept and swallow. Any ladies out they contemplating a man with children really really do some sole searching with what you can accept and handle. Put all the "rules" out the window that you may have had with childless men because a man with children is all different. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16881255.post-83049964183078031712014-01-12T18:47:30.547-08:002014-01-12T18:47:30.547-08:00I just came across this blog and I am so glad I di...I just came across this blog and I am so glad I did! I've been trying to piece my life back together and if there is one single bit of advice I have for single ladies, it is to RUN!!!!! DO NOT DATE A MAN WITH CHILDREN...EVER!! I dated a man with four boys for 8 years..yes, EIGHT YEARS!! we were engaged. I have ONE son who is almost grown. I have no baby daddy drama, he relinquished his rights. HOWEVER, I did have MASSIVE baby mama drama!! she left the children and the dad got full custody. however, that did not stop harassment by said baby mama. not only that but I found out that they were still sleeping together! she would get jealous if I took pictures with the children or spent any time with them. she turned the children against me after I invested 8 years into them. ive been to every graduation, practice, game, holiday, etc. she never showed up. but in the end, that never mattered to them. I was still placed on the back burner. Always. I feel like I have wasted my life with this man! I loved him dearly only to find out that he never truly stopped loving the ex-wife. Is it selfish to look out for yourself, to not want baggage another has left. NO! its not!! you are cheating yourself more by staying and by settling!! Like someone else said, if you roll around in someone else's sh*t, you're gonna come up funky! I WILL NEVER DATE A MAN WITH CHILDREN AGAIN. wish I had known this earlier. it would've saved a lot of heartbreak..."to thine own self be true.."_Shakespeare said it best.cheatedagainhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12984146248831368702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16881255.post-35766936960975628922014-01-03T09:59:49.755-08:002014-01-03T09:59:49.755-08:00Obviously this was a deal breaker for me, so I wou...Obviously this was a deal breaker for me, so I would probably leave. It won't change. If you do stay, you need to make total peace with it. But I don't think I'd want the headache of someone actively trying to make my life miserable (the ex). <br /><br />Do you think you are worth having someone who loves you and will put you first? You get one life and it's up to you to choose your path. Breaking up is the difficult thing to do in the short-term, but the payoff is likely worth it. Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09182054237708585905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16881255.post-18728344818502237142014-01-03T09:41:32.135-08:002014-01-03T09:41:32.135-08:00Wellll that's the thing. I wish I would've...Wellll that's the thing. I wish I would've known about all the drama that comes with a man with kids before I started a relationship with him. I know I can leave, it's just hard because I do love and care for him. He also has all the qualities I love and we get along great. The only " downfall" is that he has a child and all the things that come with the territory. I find myself questioning everyday if I want to do this for the rest of my life because that's what it is. I will have to hear about the childs mother for the rest of my life! I will have to see her at events. The money that I work hard to make will go to a child that is not mine! The mother of the child will always be first place and that depresses me. So im not sure what to do.. stay with the guy I love and get over my feelings(if that's possible) or leave the man I love and try to find happiness with someone who doesn't have baggage? HELPPPPPAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16881255.post-13172616181060677722014-01-03T08:16:32.254-08:002014-01-03T08:16:32.254-08:00So, are you staying? Or have you had enough?So, are you staying? Or have you had enough?Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09182054237708585905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16881255.post-57065934012721270192014-01-03T08:05:40.701-08:002014-01-03T08:05:40.701-08:00Wow! All I can say is everything you put is so tru...Wow! All I can say is everything you put is so true. I am currently engaged to a man who has a son from a previous relationship and there are days I just don't know if I can do it anymore. His ex used to cause so much drama. She would text him from random numbers acting like she was someone I was cheating on him with. TOTAL LIE! and to make matters worse he would believe her and come home questioning me. He finally cut all communication between the two of them because I was going to leave him. Now his parents talk to her for him which bother me too cause his parents put me in second place. They always bring her up and it makes me sick. If you want to be in third place to everyone in your mans life then go date a man with children. If you don't have children please run as fast as you can the other way because you shouldn't have to lay in a bed that someone else made. Its not worth it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com